Through the travails of life our sense of self-worth can be impacted negatively because of the tendency for many people to internalize the responses they receive from others. Everyone in early development has this tendency. So, what we are talking about here is the ‘pattern’ or ‘template’ as to the degree to which you internalize others’ responses. This is called a locus of evaluation. This just means the point from which you automatically evaluate yourself. The process of fostering a greater internal locus of evaluation of yourself is a foundational part of all psychotherapy.
The approach for accomplishing this is comprehensive, and involves the process of ‘individuation’ (i.e., differentiating your sense of self from another), which arguably, is the process of improving one’s self-esteem. The path to get there involves many areas of competencies that reveal how therapy is personal growth (and vice versa):
- How the brain and mind work so that you can better understand why you feel and behave the way you do.
- What stress is and how to best manage it so you can maintain some ‘emotional balance’.
- How to identify hidden thoughts, feelings, and beliefs apart from those that were internalized during development.
- How to form new, more adaptive and constructive beliefs about yourself, others, and the world as these inform the automatic interpretations and expectations that you have.
- Develop more helpful and harmonious ways of communicating and relating with others that are constructive and foster mutual connection and validation.
- How to discover, understand, and manage the different types and layers of emotions to help you identify your underlying needs.
- Gain new thinking tools and problem-solving techniques to better deal with life’s challenges to give you greater self-agency and autonomy.
- Learn helpful and practical principles to better approach challenges in life with greater peace of mind and success.