What would it be like to be able to understand and manage anger better, to learn how to relate in a healthy and more authentic way with the people you care about? The elephant in the room for many men is “how do I deal with my own issues so that I can actualize my potential, be more confident, and have healthy relationships. And, how do I not pass my issues on to my children or otherwise negatively impact the people I love”. Living a life based on your beliefs and needs in the present instead of the past where you feel authentic compassion for yourself and others can feel like a thousand pounds off your shoulders. You no longer need to be a martyr in your life. What would it be and feel like to be seen, heard, understood, cared about, and helped? Do you need to be an island? Was it necessary in the past? Is it needed now, or can you break out of the past protective shell and rise up like a phoenix from the ashes to a better life? Everyone is affected by negative past experiences. It seems that many men do not reach out for help because they don’t think it’s possible to be helped, or they don’t feel comfortable with a female therapist, or just the idea of therapy as it’s portrayed in the movies is not appealing. What many men have found helpful at my practice is an approach that is tailored for each individual guy to connect with and repair the common human aspects we all share in the layers of emotion, the tendencies of the mind, and the limiting beliefs that keep us in a rut. I see the unique needs and strengths of each of the guys I help. For some, we might focus on skills, and others we may delve into the past and bridge that to what you are wanting your experience to be now and in the future. A future focus can help give direction to what you want instead of only fixing ‘old’ problems. I have training in EMDR Therapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, and Clinical Hypnosis. My approach is experiential so that it does not stay abstract, but instead carries over into your real life. I have been an Adjunct Professor at the University of British Columbia, and work in the BC government as a clinician, and also have private practice. I am a father, and a husband. My passions and priorities in life are being a great father and husband, and helping others lead a fulfilling and positive life. For fun, I enjoy mixed martial arts, learning about history and the wisdom from it, chess, strategy, and rhetoric. I have lived in many places in Canada, and also overseas. I have experienced ups and downs in life like everyone else, and this is what ultimately led to the pursuit and passion in Counselling Psychology. To all men I give a free first consultation appointment so you can get a sense of what counselling is like. A helpful way to see counselling is as personal growth. How can you improve your life? If life is a sport, would you seek out the assistance of a specialist to give you an edge for your game? Many men find this reframe helpful as it makes the goal enhancing life instead of only fixing problems. Feel free to send an email to [email protected] to connect with me (Alistair) about an initial free consultation. Cheers
-Alistair Gordon, MA, RCC, CCC
Wellspring Counselling Inc.