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Rebuild Connection, Trust, and Love in Your Relationship
Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples is a helpful and proven way to understand and manage your emotions. It can assist you if you deal with anxiety, depression, trauma, self-criticism, or relationship problems. EFT gives you a clear, personal way to process emotional pain and create lasting change.
At Wellspring Counselling & Psychotherapy Inc., we provide Emotion-Focused Therapy for individuals. This therapy helps clients improve their understanding of emotions, develop self-compassion, and build inner strength.
EFT is a structured, research-backed therapy designed to help couples:
EFT helps couples go beyond minor disagreements. Instead of focusing on these surface-level issues, it encourages them to explore the deeper feelings and attachment needs that influence their behaviour.
EFT is highly effective for couples experiencing:
EFT benefits couples stuck in negative patterns and long for a deeper emotional connection.
EFT helps couples clearly understand and communicate their emotional needs. It provides a safe and structured way for them to respond to each other.
The first step is recognizing the cycle that keeps you stuck—whether it’s:
Example:
A typical relationship pattern is “Pursue-Withdraw.” One partner criticizes or makes demands, while the other shuts down or pulls away. This leaves both partners feeling unheard and unvalued, which causes more disconnection.
Conflicts often stem from deeper feelings and attachment needs. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples understand the vulnerable emotions that drive their reactions.
Example:
By uncovering and expressing genuine feelings, partners become more open and responsive to each other.
When partners better understand each other’s feelings and needs, they can respond in ways that build trust and closeness.
EFT helps couples build relationships where partners feel valued, heard, and emotionally safe.
EFT uses structured interventions to help couples communicate effectively and break negative cycles.
Clients Say
Mr. Gordon is someone that captures the spirit and the heart of active engagement. He is empathic, genuine and incorporates action and creative problem solving into his practice. I have no hesitation in recommending Mr. Gordon as an effective career and personal counsellor.
I had no experience with therapy and was unsure of the whole process. Alistair made everything very accessible and unintimidating. It was clear that he puts quite a lot of effort and preparation into every session. I'm so glad that I decided to do this, and could not have asked for a better person to help me with this. I would highly recommend Alistair to anyone who has ever thought that they might benefit from talking to a professional.
I am a young professional which for a long time now, has struggled with anxiety, insecurity, and difficulty in finding effective life coping mechanisms. Alistair was referred to me by a friend and upon the first meeting, I found Alistair to be empathetic, compassionate and intuitive. I have now been seeing Alistair regularly for 6 months and through that time my anxiety has significantly decreased, I have found effective methods of dealing with stress, found support dealing with identity issues, as well as finding inner strength to get through a tough break up. Alistair again and again, went the extra mile -thank you Alistair for your candor, openness and a safe space to get support. Thank you for playing such a large role in keeping me healthy and positive.
I have been working with Alistair Gordon as my counsellor at Wellspring for almost 6 months now and cannot begin to tell you how far I have come with his help. I have tried working with other counsellors and therapists in the past but never really found one that clicked for me. I always felt judged, unsupported, and rushed at those appointments until I booked my first appointment with Wellspring and with Allistair. To anyone on the fence about booking an appointment or engaging in therapy: if you are willing to do the work, you couldn't ask for a better partner in your healing journey.
When I decided to find a counsellor, I tried to find someone that I could relate to, someone that is like-minded and down-to-earth and with Alistair I really found the right person. He uses an integrative approach, showed me techniques to relax and get aware of my emotions, and helped me see things in a new perspective. Of course this is an ongoing process but I enjoy meeting and working with Alistair every time. The downtown office is a very neutral place - not too intimate, not too clinical - which is helpful to overcome apprehension, especially the first couple of times. What I find remarkable is that Alistair almost always knows what I'm trying to say, even if I can't put it into words. Working with Alistair helped me a lot and it was the right decision to put my trust in him.
Alistair really cares about you the person, and I could really feel him trying to tackle my challenges. He was also very available for off-session contact via text and email. I think he did a great job with confronting me where I needed it. Alistair always could remember the important peoples' names in my personal life, which really helped with talking about my problems. I really felt like I was talking to a friend.
Alistair is an awesome counsellor. He has been so helpful in working with me through some tough times in my life. He's always been available to chat with me in-between sessions. I'd recommend Alistair to anyone - he's really the ideal counsellor in my view.
I enjoy how sessions are collaborative where I can take the lead for the direction of what we talk about, and at the same time I know that Alistair will offer helpful guidance and insight along the way. I also like how we focus on the future instead of just the past. I find this to be empowering and helpful to move forward in life.
Alistair is an awesome counsellor. He has been so helpful in working with me through some tough times in my life. He's always been available to chat with me in-between sessions. I'd recommend Alistair to anyone - he's really the ideal counsellor in my view.
I have always felt very comfortable with Alistair. He has a calming presence, and you can tell he cares about being the best counsellor for you. He helps you with all aspects of your concern, and is always able to help me find a solution to the problem I'm having.
Alistair is an exceptionally talented counsellor and has always demonstrated strong ethics, great compassion, wisdom and respect for others. I highly recommend him as a counselling practitioner.
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