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If feelings of shame and guilt are making you feel heavy, hurting your self-worth, and changing how you see life, you are not alone. Our online counselling services in British Columbia offer a safe and private place where you can work through and heal from these feelings.
If you’re dealing with past trauma, complex life events, or negative thoughts about yourself, our skilled therapists are ready to help. We will provide personalized support to help you identify what triggers your emotions, create better ways to cope and rebuild your self-confidence.
If you’re in Maple Ridge, we offer in-person therapy, including EMDR Therapy. This therapy helps you process difficult memories to move forward with more strength.
We understand that shame and guilt can profoundly affect you. Our experienced therapists create a safe space for you to address these feelings and rebuild your self-worth.
You don’t have to face shame and guilt by yourself. You can heal and accept yourself with the proper support and tools.
Shame is a strong emotion that can result from many experiences, from minor mistakes to deep emotional pain. Unlike guilt, which is about specific actions, shame affects how people see themselves. It often leads to feelings of worthlessness, insecurity, and self-doubt. This inner conflict can make it hard to heal and move on.
Shame comes from the fear of being judged and rejected. It can lead to feelings of anxiety, sadness, and the desire to avoid social situations. When people feel shame, they often believe that others are always watching them, which strengthens their negative thoughts about themselves. These feelings usually come from past experiences, such as being criticized or excluded by friends, family, or society. If shame is not addressed, it can harm self-esteem and overall mental health.
Addressing shame is essential for emotional growth and healing. To break its cycle, build self-awareness, practice self-compassion, and seek support from trusted people or professionals. Challenge negative beliefs about yourself and embrace self-acceptance. This can help you rebuild your confidence and develop a healthier view of yourself and your life.
If shame has been holding you back, healing is possible. Starting the journey toward self-acceptance can help you live a more fulfilling and empowered life.
Guilt and shame are different emotions that affect our well-being in various ways. Guilt happens when you feel you’ve acted against your morals or values. It often comes after making a mistake or a bad decision. This leads to self-reflection, regret, and an internal struggle.
Shame is about how you think others see you. Guilt is tied to your sense of right and wrong. While shame comes from fear of judgment or rejection from others, guilt can help you grow. It pushes you to recognize your mistakes and make better choices in the future.
Knowing the difference between guilt and shame helps us better handle these feelings. We can see guilt as a way to become more self-aware instead of punishing ourselves. This perspective allows us to learn, grow, and strengthen our emotional resilience.
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Mr. Gordon is someone that captures the spirit and the heart of active engagement. He is empathic, genuine and incorporates action and creative problem solving into his practice. I have no hesitation in recommending Mr. Gordon as an effective career and personal counsellor.
I had no experience with therapy and was unsure of the whole process. Alistair made everything very accessible and unintimidating. It was clear that he puts quite a lot of effort and preparation into every session. I'm so glad that I decided to do this, and could not have asked for a better person to help me with this. I would highly recommend Alistair to anyone who has ever thought that they might benefit from talking to a professional.
I am a young professional which for a long time now, has struggled with anxiety, insecurity, and difficulty in finding effective life coping mechanisms. Alistair was referred to me by a friend and upon the first meeting, I found Alistair to be empathetic, compassionate and intuitive. I have now been seeing Alistair regularly for 6 months and through that time my anxiety has significantly decreased, I have found effective methods of dealing with stress, found support dealing with identity issues, as well as finding inner strength to get through a tough break up. Alistair again and again, went the extra mile -thank you Alistair for your candor, openness and a safe space to get support. Thank you for playing such a large role in keeping me healthy and positive.
I have been working with Alistair Gordon as my counsellor at Wellspring for almost 6 months now and cannot begin to tell you how far I have come with his help. I have tried working with other counsellors and therapists in the past but never really found one that clicked for me. I always felt judged, unsupported, and rushed at those appointments until I booked my first appointment with Wellspring and with Allistair. To anyone on the fence about booking an appointment or engaging in therapy: if you are willing to do the work, you couldn't ask for a better partner in your healing journey.
When I decided to find a counsellor, I tried to find someone that I could relate to, someone that is like-minded and down-to-earth and with Alistair I really found the right person. He uses an integrative approach, showed me techniques to relax and get aware of my emotions, and helped me see things in a new perspective. Of course this is an ongoing process but I enjoy meeting and working with Alistair every time. The downtown office is a very neutral place - not too intimate, not too clinical - which is helpful to overcome apprehension, especially the first couple of times. What I find remarkable is that Alistair almost always knows what I'm trying to say, even if I can't put it into words. Working with Alistair helped me a lot and it was the right decision to put my trust in him.
Alistair really cares about you the person, and I could really feel him trying to tackle my challenges. He was also very available for off-session contact via text and email. I think he did a great job with confronting me where I needed it. Alistair always could remember the important peoples' names in my personal life, which really helped with talking about my problems. I really felt like I was talking to a friend.
Alistair is an awesome counsellor. He has been so helpful in working with me through some tough times in my life. He's always been available to chat with me in-between sessions. I'd recommend Alistair to anyone - he's really the ideal counsellor in my view.
I enjoy how sessions are collaborative where I can take the lead for the direction of what we talk about, and at the same time I know that Alistair will offer helpful guidance and insight along the way. I also like how we focus on the future instead of just the past. I find this to be empowering and helpful to move forward in life.
Alistair is an awesome counsellor. He has been so helpful in working with me through some tough times in my life. He's always been available to chat with me in-between sessions. I'd recommend Alistair to anyone - he's really the ideal counsellor in my view.
I have always felt very comfortable with Alistair. He has a calming presence, and you can tell he cares about being the best counsellor for you. He helps you with all aspects of your concern, and is always able to help me find a solution to the problem I'm having.
Alistair is an exceptionally talented counsellor and has always demonstrated strong ethics, great compassion, wisdom and respect for others. I highly recommend him as a counselling practitioner.
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