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If shame and guilt are holding you back, affecting your self-esteem, and changing how you view the world, you’re not alone. Our online counselling services in British Columbia offer a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space for you to explore and heal from these emotions.
If you are facing challenges from past trauma, harrowing life experiences, or negative self-talk, our therapists can help. We will work with you to identify triggers, develop better coping strategies, and rebuild your confidence. We offer in-person therapy, including EMDR Therapy, for residents of Vancouver to support your healing journey.
Our experienced therapists understand the nuances of shame and guilt. We offer:
Shame is a strong feeling that can come from many experiences, from minor mistakes to severe trauma. It often makes people feel unworthy, insecure, and not good enough. Unlike guilt, which focuses on what you do, shame affects how you see yourself deeply, which can make it hard to move on.
Shame is a strong emotion often caused by the fear of being judged. It can lead to feelings of anxiety, sadness, and social withdrawal. People who feel shame may think others are watching and judging them, which can worsen their negative feelings about themselves. This emotion can also affect how someone sees themselves and their world. Often, shame arises from past experiences like rejection, criticism, or exclusion by family, friends, or society.
Recognizing and dealing with shame is essential for emotional health. People can break free from shame’s grip by becoming more self-aware and seeking support. This helps rebuild self-worth and develop a healthier outlook on life.
Guilt and shame are often confused, but they are different feelings. Guilt happens when you think you have violated your moral beliefs or ethical standards. It usually occurs after making a mistake or a bad choice. This can lead to feelings of regret, self-reflection, and inner conflict.
Guilt and shame are different emotions. Shame often depends on how others see you, while guilt comes from your feelings about your actions. Guilt reflects your standards instead of what others think. While it can feel uncomfortable, guilt helps you become more aware of yourself and encourages you to change for the better. Understanding guilt and shame can help you manage your emotions healthily and support your personal growth.
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Mr. Gordon is someone that captures the spirit and the heart of active engagement. He is empathic, genuine and incorporates action and creative problem solving into his practice. I have no hesitation in recommending Mr. Gordon as an effective career and personal counsellor.
I had no experience with therapy and was unsure of the whole process. Alistair made everything very accessible and unintimidating. It was clear that he puts quite a lot of effort and preparation into every session. I'm so glad that I decided to do this, and could not have asked for a better person to help me with this. I would highly recommend Alistair to anyone who has ever thought that they might benefit from talking to a professional.
I am a young professional which for a long time now, has struggled with anxiety, insecurity, and difficulty in finding effective life coping mechanisms. Alistair was referred to me by a friend and upon the first meeting, I found Alistair to be empathetic, compassionate and intuitive. I have now been seeing Alistair regularly for 6 months and through that time my anxiety has significantly decreased, I have found effective methods of dealing with stress, found support dealing with identity issues, as well as finding inner strength to get through a tough break up. Alistair again and again, went the extra mile -thank you Alistair for your candor, openness and a safe space to get support. Thank you for playing such a large role in keeping me healthy and positive.
I have been working with Alistair Gordon as my counsellor at Wellspring for almost 6 months now and cannot begin to tell you how far I have come with his help. I have tried working with other counsellors and therapists in the past but never really found one that clicked for me. I always felt judged, unsupported, and rushed at those appointments until I booked my first appointment with Wellspring and with Allistair. To anyone on the fence about booking an appointment or engaging in therapy: if you are willing to do the work, you couldn't ask for a better partner in your healing journey.
When I decided to find a counsellor, I tried to find someone that I could relate to, someone that is like-minded and down-to-earth and with Alistair I really found the right person. He uses an integrative approach, showed me techniques to relax and get aware of my emotions, and helped me see things in a new perspective. Of course this is an ongoing process but I enjoy meeting and working with Alistair every time. The downtown office is a very neutral place - not too intimate, not too clinical - which is helpful to overcome apprehension, especially the first couple of times. What I find remarkable is that Alistair almost always knows what I'm trying to say, even if I can't put it into words. Working with Alistair helped me a lot and it was the right decision to put my trust in him.
Alistair really cares about you the person, and I could really feel him trying to tackle my challenges. He was also very available for off-session contact via text and email. I think he did a great job with confronting me where I needed it. Alistair always could remember the important peoples' names in my personal life, which really helped with talking about my problems. I really felt like I was talking to a friend.
Alistair is an awesome counsellor. He has been so helpful in working with me through some tough times in my life. He's always been available to chat with me in-between sessions. I'd recommend Alistair to anyone - he's really the ideal counsellor in my view.
I enjoy how sessions are collaborative where I can take the lead for the direction of what we talk about, and at the same time I know that Alistair will offer helpful guidance and insight along the way. I also like how we focus on the future instead of just the past. I find this to be empowering and helpful to move forward in life.
Alistair is an awesome counsellor. He has been so helpful in working with me through some tough times in my life. He's always been available to chat with me in-between sessions. I'd recommend Alistair to anyone - he's really the ideal counsellor in my view.
I have always felt very comfortable with Alistair. He has a calming presence, and you can tell he cares about being the best counsellor for you. He helps you with all aspects of your concern, and is always able to help me find a solution to the problem I'm having.
Alistair is an exceptionally talented counsellor and has always demonstrated strong ethics, great compassion, wisdom and respect for others. I highly recommend him as a counselling practitioner.
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