Couples Tools
Tools Directory
Relationship Check‑In Tool
A weekly relationship meeting you can rely on when life gets busy. Based on the idea of a structured “State of the Union” conversation, this tool helps you share appreciations, talk through concerns using “I” statements, and end with one clear request for the coming week.
Conflict “Time‑Out” Timer
A guided pause that helps you stop an argument from spiraling and return to the conversation with more calm. Gottman research describes taking a break (often at least 20 minutes) to support physiological soothing, plus agreeing on a return time so the pause does not feel like avoidance.
Date Night Idea Generator
Connection is built in small, meaningful rituals, including a consistent date night that feels realistic and mutual. This generator helps you quickly choose an idea that fits your time, budget, energy, and season of life.
Shared Goals Planner
A structured planner to help you clarify what you are building together, then choose 1 to 3 shared goals you can actually follow through on. Gottman’s shared meaning work emphasizes shared goals and purpose as part of strengthening the relationship’s foundation.
Repair Phrases Builder
A choose-your-own script builder for those moments when you want to de-escalate but cannot find the words. Gottman describes repair attempts as any words or actions that keep negativity from escalating, and offers examples of phrases that help conversations come back on track.